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Whore Shaming – SHAME ON YOU!
March 4, 2013, 3:46 am
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I’m a bit of a masochist because balance is important and I’m such a sadist, it’s important to add a little masochism in for variety and to keep one grounded. So to self flagellate, I occasionally read forums. Usually I just feel my IQ drop 30 points or so, but occasionally I find it goes beyond the loss of IQ and the 5 minutes I’ll never get back, to developing an actual migraine.

I’ve seen/read MANY things on forums that have literally made me want to scoop my own eyeballs out with a teaspoon and stick them in a blender in an effort to get the horror that has been burnt into my retina’s removed. Sometime’s I’ve considered sticking pins in my eyeballs to lessen the pain in my brain. However, I recently read something that drives me to mental anger like nothing else.

I’ve had people call me an arsehole, a maniac, a self obsessed numbnut, a fucktard, a slut, a who gives a shit I forget because I don’t care what others think of me blah blah. I’ve seen people compare the feeling of having sex with a sex worker like throwing a sausage down a hallway… I didn’t have the heart to point out that maybe it wasn’t because she was loose, maybe it was because his dick was so small… but I digress. What I’m saying is I’ve seen a lot of hateful, judgemental, flat out mean and disgusting things said about sex workers. The one thing that is THE MOST HORRID, is what is commonly known as “whore shaming”. Whore shaming or slut shaming is making a judgement about another person (and in this case sex workers) and publicly dumping crap on them based on their identity as a sex worker.

I see posts by activists, feminists etc every day going on about whore/slut shaming. The rhetoric that is usually thrust upon sex workers by non sex working feminists is nasty, judgemental and comes from a place of ignorance. We’ve seen an increase in slut/whore shaming and it’s now actually becoming a world wide political movement that is gaining momentum and power. These haters are now finding themselves standing side by side evangelical’s at prostest marches etc all around the world. They are now being heavily quoted and reported in the media. They thrash social media. This from the month of February 2013 and just an example of MANY.

http://nothing-about-us-without-us.com/war-on-sex-workers-reason-com-february-2013/

http://nothing-about-us-without-us.com/what-feminism-can-learn-from-sex-workers-buzzfeed-com-12-02-13/

http://nothing-about-us-without-us.com/transforming-pornography-black-porn-for-black-women-guernicamag-com-15-02-13/

So with the war on sex workers on, imagine the sheer HORROR when you see sex workers hating on other sex workers on a public forum.

I’ve seen statements about how people who have green hair, wearing little more than a leather thong, standing on the steps of parliament house protesting are unprofessional. Sex workers saying they are “embarassed” to be represented by them, that people may think that is what sex workers are actually like and that makes them want to disown them from the sex working profession. Wearing clothing to a protest that you would wear if working in a brothel is mortifying.

Wake the fuck up! When the CFMEU goes on strike do they go to the strike wearing their workboots and overalls? When teachers go on strike, do they go home and get changed out of their teaching clothes before they attend a protest? Did the nurses take off their uniforms before protestings? When ANYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD GOES ON STRIKE OR PROTESTS, do they go to the strike wearing their work clothes, or whatever they feel comfortable in? The nurses wore their uniforms as did the CFMEU because wearing their uniform adds to the message, adds legitimacy, shows them as a united group in uniform, gives them an identity. Why should sex workers feel ashamed of their uniform? Why should they forgo what teachers, nurses, people in construction etc are able to do? Why would you discriminate against other sex workers and deny them this right? What a fucking ridiculous thing to base your whore shaming on.

SHAME ON YOU!

Tony Abbot appears regularly in the national media in his Speedo’s lobbying for your vote. Why is it ok for him to be wearing Speedo’s when lobbying but not a male wearing a leather thong (if that ever even happened at all)?

One of the the core messages of the sex worker movement is to have the sex industry considered morally and legally as no different to any other industry. Why then shouldn’t a sex worker wear their work clothing to a protest? We lobby for the site of us to be normalised rather than something that should be hidden away behind doors.

Do we hate on the GLBTIQ community at Mardi Gras because many of the participants are wearing next to nothing but glitter? The Mardi Gras march began as a protest movement and to an extent it still is. Should we shame them for what they wear? Does it destroy their message or what they’re trying to achieve? Does it make the public love them any less? Or do people come to see the colour and movement? To see what everyone will be wearing and how they’ll be shaking their bits while they’ll be wearing it? Mardi Gras is perhaps not the poster child for inclusion these days however as this years sex workers did not have a dedicated float or presence because the Mardi Gras Committee decided sex workers were not exactly welcomed last year http://www.scarletalliance.org.au/library/mgras12

One of the most powerful figures in the Australian sex worker movement (and world wide for that matter) is Elena Jeffries. Elena has multi coloured hair and does not wear conventional suits to any outting I’ve ever seen. When you see Elena talk, she is a force of nature. She is memorable in what she says and memorable in what she wears. She comes across as completely authentic. She is 100% mesmorising. You are enamoured as you watch, learn and listen. If she wore a conventioanal suit, she would not have the same impact, she would not have been as successful as she has been in educating, advocating and lobbying.

Politician’s lead boring lives – read Hansard for the daily grind of their work experience.

http://www.aph.gov.au/Parliamentary_Business/Hansard/Search

When sex workers come to town to lobby, politcian’s are always thrilled to see us. We are different. We bring colour and movement to what is a dull daily experience. We bring a different perspective, a different discussion, a different life. I would not change the way sex workers currently lobby for anything.

When there is a protest, people are only encouraged to wear red and bring a red umbrella if they have one. This is because red is the colour world wide of the sex worker movement and the umbrella is our symbol. I watched a recent protest in Melbourne by sex workers and I’ve watched protests around the country. I can’t remember the last time I didn’t see sex workers covered from head to toe. Literally from head to toe. Sex workers who say that sex workers who attend protests in nothing but their underwear I would suggest are people who’ve never attended a protest, rather rely on stigmatising stereotypes for their information. Again AND SO WHAT IF THEY DID ONLY WEAR THEIR UNDERWEAR?!

When these people whore shame there is nothing about the message that the sex workers were putting across, nothing about why the the demonstration was being held, nothing about the experience, the success or achievements. Only “eew I’m so ashamed”. Again educate yourself if you want to vaguely be able to debate a point.

I strongly recommend anyone into slut shaming/whore shaming read the following article:

http://nothing-about-us-without-us.com/waging-war-on-sex-workers-guernicamag-com-15-02-13/

I once spoke to an activist who has multi coloured hair, who attends all the protests wearing whatever the fuck she wants. I was so cranky that people had named and shamed her and wanted to know what she does when she see’s other sex workers paying out on her or other workers. She told me she just doesn’t listen, she doesn’t respond, she gets on with it because by responding, she feels like she’s attacking other workers. Well she’s a cooler cucumber than I am.

Unless sex workers can show each other a bit of solidarity, we are in serious shit. There is a move world wide to the Nordic Model of regulation for the sex indsutry. The proposed laws which will push thru after the next election in WA are going to be unparalleled in their discriminatory evil. Sex workers in WA are going to be so bent over and ass fucked by the govt, they’re not going to know what hit them. There’s going to be licensing including finger prints, palm prints, brothel closures, clients will be targetted and charged, touring workers (FIFO) will be illegal… does anyone seriously believe that now is the time to be saying they are “ashamed”, “embarassed” of other sex workers? Does anyone really think now is the time to say sex workers should remain hidden behind doors and not be seen? NOW is the time to come together. NOW is the time to stop slut shaming, whore shaming and demonstrating such cuntery in general!

Don’t help ANYONE to bend us over or we will all suffer the consequences! 

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This what I have missed, the way you stand up and say how it is.
Do not back down
Do not give in

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